Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Forty.



So. I have reached the milestone of forty. They say that life begins at forty. Two days in and I am still waiting for the drum roll, the angel dust, the fireworks. No angel has descended to hand me a certificate to congratulate me on making it this far. Or to hand me the "Your Life's Instruction Manual" I've been waiting for. Has my midlife transformation transformed? No. Have I achieved enlightenment while sipping wine and sitting under the pepper tree? No. (And if age is an indicator of enlightenment, and Buddha achieved his at 35, then I am long bloody overdue. Maybe it was the wrong tree. Or the wine.)

I was considering sharing tales of my adventures through my thirties (becoming a Buddhist, returning to South Africa, marrying my lovely wife), but I am done looking back.  I could share some pieces of advice I've received over the years, which have always stood me in good stead (always take a breath mint when it is offered), but people rarely follow the advice of others. I did think about sharing some wisdom (everyone is a reflection, we are all Buddhas), but frankly, I can't be arsed right now to sit and type out all that stuff about What It All Means. Besides, not every slice of wisdom is for everyone and not everything I may consider to be wise, is. After all, I do believe in flying saucers and space aliens and the existence of the chupacabra. And the yeti. And a whole host of other things.

I thought I'd go all Oprah instead and tell you what I know to be true:

LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE DRINKING CHEAP AND NASTY WINE.



5 comments:

  1. Hey there, Tam. I have enjoyed reading your series so much - especially the parts I can relate so closely to, like your Twenties and Thirties. I'm still waiting for my moment of enlightenment to arrive too. I certainly feel more secure in my own identity at the ripe old age of 32. Note I said secure, not happy. Man, I hate this 'mantle of mom' that has been draped over me! Happy new decade, and long may you prosper! x

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  2. Happy 40th and blessings on a new decade of adventures! And though I am still a fairly new wine drinker (long story), I am starting to be able to tell when it's bad wine. That's a good sign, right? ;)

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    1. Yay! That's a good sign. My sister is a chef and she taught me everything I know about wine. In my twenties I was a wine snob and then spent most of my 30s teetotal (my ex was an alcoholic and it really put me off drinking), but since returning to South Africa I have rediscovered the joys of a good wine on occasion. And turnign 40 was indeed an occasion.

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